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Friday, February 27, 2015

10 Things I've Learned Since Turning 25- Part II

I said I had 10 lessons learned, but as I thought about it, I realized I had a total of 15 lessons learned, so here's an added extra five for you!

1.) Time goes by very quickly- Remember in high school when you thought you'd always be a freshman and it'd be a very long time before you graduated? When you finally reached that year, you were just looking forward to getting through every semester of college. And then when that was over . . . well, you regretted wishing away your time instead of enjoying the season of life you were in. At least, I do. And I'm pretty sure everyone wishes away each season of life they're in. Because I work now and don't go to school, time goes by too quickly. The days, weeks, months, and years all jumble together and all of sudden I wonder what happened to the days that seemed to pass by so slowly. All of a sudden the year I graduated from high school is almost a decade away from the present time. Enjoy whatever you're doing right now.

2.) You really should listen to your parent's advice- I say this, but I tend to not act upon it. 99% of the time my parents are right concerning the advice they give out.

3.) I appreciate life way more than before- I take the time to make the most of the time, knowing how quickly the time is passing. And I also take time to actually enjoy God's creation now. After I finished college I had time to actually enjoy nature, and once I did I was amazed at what I had missed out on for 20 years. I had never taken the time to notice how amazing nature was and how gorgeous it was, but now I do, relaxing and thanking God for creating such beauty. An added benefit to going outdoors and just watching nature is the fact that if you're depressed or sad it's a great pick me up, something about it has the ability to take a load off of your shoulders. Don't take the seasons for granted- go out and enjoy them all the while thanking God for it. I've found this also makes me more grateful.

4.) Going to bed late isn't fun or cool anymore- teens like to do that because they're normally restricted as to what time they have to go to sleep. When you're in your 20s, that's just kid stuff. You realize it's more important to get a good night's sleep and go to bed early, especially because you have work in the morning and cannot stay up late. And when you don't have work, staying up late isn't nostalgic or fun like it used to be because . . . well, you're an adult.

5.) Your metabolism will slow down- trust me on this one. I never had to worry about what I ate, but now I do, because at 24 something terrible happened to my body and now I cannot eat whatever I want without the consequences showing. It's sad, but the benefit of this is that it helps you to practice self-control and take care of yourself, just as God intended.

6.) You learn to talk about what other people care about when you don't- When you're placed in an awkward and new atmosphere with people you don't know or know well, you realize that now as the adult you have to make the effort to carry on a conversation. When you're a teen you expect others to speak to you first or even that you should only talk about what you're interested in. Not so. I remember not knowing what to say to someone at a lunch event, so I looked at what they were wearing and mentioned how I loved an article they were wearing, which led to a whole conversation on something I didn't even care about, but she did. And because it was important to her, it became important to me. You may not want to talk about dentures or raising children or mathematics to someone, but find something they enjoy and ask them about it. It's important to think of others first over yourself. They'll appreciate that you take the time to listen to something they love to talk about and feel you genuinely care about them.

7.) As an adult you have to deal with mean and rude people- I can't tell you how many times this has happened, and it's always so subtle, so they can get away with it and have the last laugh. Let it roll off your back. If it really bothers you, tell them you don't appreciate them making fun of you or that their words were very unkind and see what they say back. I think they'll be quite embarrassed at their rudeness and most likely apologize, seeing as they weren't expecting you to say anything. Don't counter rudeness with rudeness though. Not only is it not Christ-like, it's counterproductive. You've just stooped down to their level and let them know that their words really hurt you enough to hurt them back.

8.) You appreciate friendships way more than you did as a teen- I remember dumping friends on a regular basis as a teen, not caring a thing about our friendship, always believing I'd find more friends later on. Then I realized after doing all that I had no friends and really regretted  that, so now I make sure to check up on my friends often and make time for them. Friendships are harder to maintain in your 20s and they take effort, but it's well worth it. I'm so glad I've been given a second chance to have friends who will hopefully end up becoming lifelong friends. Cultivate your friendships and take the initiative to do things with your friends. When you don't take the initiative, it shows that you don't even care about what happens to your friendship. And who knows, maybe you won't get a second chance like I did.

9.) If you've worked eight hours at any point in time, you have a greater appreciation for your dad and you understand why a hot, cooked meal is necessary once he gets home. I can really relate to this one. I've been working for five years, and sometimes the going gets rough. I cannot fathom how men cannot be depressed everyday of their lives because they have to provide for their families (at horrible jobs sometimes) for decades! Not only that, because I work I know how it feels to come home to nothing for dinner . . . talk about an adult temper tantrum (the one where you go "Fine!" and slam the door because there's nothing to eat, so you don't eat). Because of this, I have made a vow to never let my spouse go without a meal when he gets home. And if you've never worked an eight hour day before, I would encourage you to try it at least once for a whole week, especially if you're going to become a wife someday. It will make you think twice about being too tired to cook for the day.

10.) You have to work when your sick. Say it ain't so! It's terrible, but it's true. Sometimes you just have to work when you're sick, whether it be because you work for a company with two employees or nobody else can cover for you, or because you work part-time and can't afford to lose out, or even because you took too many sick days. I completely sympathize. Gone are the days when you can stay home from school and enjoy it. As an adult, you have to do things you don't want to do, and this is one of those things.

So those are my top fifteen. If you have any to add, post below! And remember, your post below enters you to win a quarter-life crisis care package, complete with a goal workbook, chocolate, tea, and more!

6 comments:

  1. Hi, I am Sister Redden, I don't have anything to add at the moment but i just wanted to say that I love your life lessons. those are some really good ones. I especially like the one about being a good listener and talking about what other people like to talk about. I think that is huge! Not to mention the one about not giving rudeness for rudeness. You never know what someone is going though and your reaction to their rude remarks could change their there out look on life, other people, and eventually change their whole life.

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  2. Well hello there! Thanks for your lovely comments! I appreciate your response, and wanted to let you know that if nobody else posts within the week, you'll automatically receive the giveaway ;)

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  3. Okay Sister Redden, you won! :D If you would like to receive your care package in the mail, please send me your name and address through the contact form at the bottom of my blog. Congrats!

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  4. Thank you but I just thought it was an awesome post so commented on that. If there is someone there who is in more need of it then please give it to them. Thank you though! I think I tried to enter in the form but it didn't quite work, then I tried to answer you back to tell you what I just told you now and i am not sure that worked either. So anyway, definitely give it to someone else, I am in no need of it. :) Thanks though.

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  5. Thank you! Let me know if you post any more of your great insights!

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